"Heart of the City" Tv Show .....HIGHLIGHTS 4.10.12

Topic of the Week:

                                                                                  

 "FLAWS & ALL"

1) Is there a such thing as a “Perfect Person” YES!!!

A) We are all perfect in our own unique way.

B) Flaws makes us unique and different (ACCEPT IT)

C) People would rather make excuses than correcting their ways



2) Do Our Expectations of others hurt or harm our dating choices.

A) Initially we want people to bring their “A” Game

B) 1st Impressions Crucial but not Final

C) What we expect of others is based on our own beliefs, upbringing and experiences

D) Our Representatives in the beginning show no flaws….. ((WAIT FOR IT))

E) Our expectations do hurt us sometimes; it can be a form of control.

F) 2nd Chances should be given but don’t miss ((RED FLAGS))



3) Who has more flaws Women or Men (O.o)                                         

A) Both equally have flaws

B) Women are more open about their flaws than Men

C) Men won’t openly admit their flaws unless comfortable with their mate

D) Admitting flaws for men is a form of vulnerability

E) Ladies maybe open about flaws but it can consume them and make them more emotional and irrational at times.

F) Women’s flaws can make them borderline CRAZY!!!

4) Does good sex make people overlook flaws?                                                                          

A) Good Sex is a Gift and a Curse

B) Flaws that normally aren’t acceptable will be ignored momentarily

C) Focusing only on sex won’t produce successful relationships

D) Sex is Great but it doesn’t equate to Love

E) Wanting Good Sex is a not a Flaw but the aftermath can be



**** Take Home FUNNY of the Day*****



WOMEN DON’T WHORE THEY “TEST THE WATERS” (((inside joke))



THANKS EVERYONE FOR COMING OUT…… SEE YOU NEXT TUESDAY @RED KIVA 1108 W. Randolph,  Chicago, IL  6-9pm 21+ to Enter (^.^)
 
Sincerely,
 
Host/Cast/Crew

"Heart of the City " Highlights (04/03/2012)

                                                     

Topic of the Week

"No Romance w/Out Finance" 


1) To find love money is not necessary or should be your main focus.



2) Love is Blind, No Matter What Color, Religion or Culture You Maybe, LOVE SEE'S YOUR HEART



3) Just because your funds maybe low doesn't mean you can't do something creative

A) Plan a date around free events locally

B) Parks, Museums, Recreational Sites when Weather Permits are always fun

C) Groupon is another way to save money; Ladies don't mind a "Thrifty Man"

D) Invites over the house on 1st, 2nd or 3rd dates may send the wrong message



4) Not all women want their bills paid. There are women who want to assist and be a "TEAM PLAYER"


5) Sometimes money can jade people's perception of the "Reality" of your situation.

A) Money can make people over look (Red Flags)

B) Lavish Dates/Outings creates a Great Ambiance but you tend to become more impressed with the scenery than the "Actual Person"

C) Money can't buy Happiness / even people who have it all can be miserable inside

D) More money More problems...... Somebody always needs something (Emotional Stress can cause hardships in relationships)



6) Nobody is Perfect and Money doesn’t make them perfect.



7) Love People for who they are and not what they have or can offer you!!!



We could go on and on but that's why YOU NEED TO BE THERE NEXT TUESDAY!!!!!!! (Red KIVA 1108 W. Randolph, Chicago, IL

THANKS TO ALL OF OUR WONDERFUL AUDIENCE MEMEBERS/GUESTS (*.*)

Heart of The City TV Show!!!!!

The Song Says..........."Aint No Love In The Heart of the City" - Jay- Z  ............Well I beg to differ ,  I found the "Love" and its EXACTLY in the "Heart of the City".    Chicago's Up & Coming New Tv Show brings adults from all walks of life together to discuss a wide range of topics from Relationships, Entertainment, Sports, Lifestyle and More in an Unorthodox Setting.   

"Heart of the City " Tv Show gives adults their space to open up and be who they are.  It gives adults a platform to speak their mind without feeling judge and it's a FUN Environment with Great People all under One Roof!!!

Topics for the previous Weeks: 

March 20, 2012 - Where's the Love - Does Love Still Exist ??
March 27,2012 - Shacking vs Marriage  - Has Living Together become Modern Day Marriage ??
April 3, 2012 - No Romance W/Out Finance - Can You Truly Find Love w/No Money ??
April 9, 2010-  Flaws & All - Is there a such thing as a "Perfect Person"
All these topics and more are being dicussed but you have to be there to get involved.     Meet us @Red Kiva 1108 W. Randolph, Chicago, IL  ((((EVERY TUESDAY))))  Doors Open at 7pm , Recording Starts at 8pm.

                                                         
**Please Note **This show was originally created based off of the Forum/Tv Show "Battle of the Grown & Sexes Project" which aired locally in 2010 on CAN TV.

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Cheaters Week

The Mission of the Battle of the Grown & Sexes “Project” is to promote healthier, happy, long lasting relationships between women and men. There are a lot of relationship games being played whether it’s emotionally, mentally or physically between women and men that need to cease. We believe that once we tackle the common issues on video and on blog pages via face book and other media outlets while using everyday people from different age groups, ethnicities, work backgrounds, educational levels etc., to discuss relationship topics/issues this will allow people who are single, dating, couples, married couples, etc., the abilities to look inside of themselves and their relationships as a whole and make better and healthier choices in life pertaining to their relationship happiness.

Our Grand-Opening or First Roll Out Topic of the Week was “Cheaters”. Rodney Harvey and I, Jamie Payne went around various Chicago areas asking random people the three questions of the week. Who cheats the most women or men? Who is affected by cheating more women or men? How does cheating affect people (women or men) in the long term relationships? *Bonus* question, Can people move one once they have been cheated on?

We received mixed reviews from the various, women, men, couples and married couples that we interviewed. The Women: Some women said men cheat more and that they are not considerate of the long term affects that it will have in a relationship. Some women said that men are more concerned with the physical aspects of cheating versus the emotional aspects of cheating. Some women say women cheat; they just are smarter at it than men.

The Men: Some men said that women cheat more they just don’t get caught as much as men. Some men admit that they cheat but women are smarter cheaters. Some men said that women are approached more often and have multiple opportunities to cheat more than men.

The Loop Answer: Women & Men cheat equally. Everybody stated that women and men do cheat and that is a common fact. Men cheat, Women cheat smarter.

The Conclusion: Cheating is wrong no matter who does it. It affects everyone involve and should not be looked at as a game, a way to get back at another person or for personal gain. Nobody wins in cheating, we all lose. It’s not positive and it doesn’t create positive effects on your self esteem or anyone else. We urge our supporters to think twice before you do this selfish act (Jacenda Smith). People can move on after being cheated on but it does take time no matter who does it women or men.

Submitted by: Jamie Payne, Founder of The Battle of the Grown & Sexes “Project”
Promote Positivity………And Watch It Grow!!!
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Love is Just a Game......................Of Chess that Is??

This information is off of the dome while I was driving to work this morning LOL!!! Now I have never played Chess a day in my life BUT I do feel I have Played Chess with My Life!!! Get IT??? I simplify that for you towards the end of this message and maybe you all will see that We all Are Chess Players, We just never knew it???

I think that it safe to say that every business around us is based off an emotion?? Agree or Disagree?? Example: Restaurants business, somebody had to be hungry in order to create a Business dealing with Food. The Wedding Industry or Greeting Cards this are based off of Love, Caring, and Concerns for others or Expressing Emotions that you want to say but can’t find the words. The Automotive Industry: Somebody had to have a love for cars, mechanics and building things. All of these card board games and cards are actually were based off of somebody’s emotions and for whatever reason they A: Decided to take it to greater levels than what they were experiencing, i.e. put those thoughts into action and make money off of it as well.

Everything in life “WORKS TOGETHER” . When you read this message and will be more enlightened on how “Relationships & Chess” are no different at all. It’s all about STRATEGY!!!!! I can break down Strategy as well but the key to that is some people can give you guidance in your life that can help shape your strategies of life. And there are others who had to go through some situations to figure it out on their own. So, with that being said here’s my take on Love & Chess and for all the real chess players please don’t take everything I say literally!!! I’m not discrediting your skills but really everybody has skills at chess, they just don’t know it yet……..Well the Mature DO the Immature As Still Playing with their “PAWNS”

Okay in Chess you have the King on One Side who needs to Win the Queen, & the Queen on the other side (the Most Powerful in the Game, Why because you’re dealing with her heart and other things but I won’t get to detailed about that because you already know!!! Where All Adults LOL!!!. I Truly believe that Everybody has a Sole Mate (CHECKMATE). I also believe that 9 times out of 10 you know who & when your sole mate is when that “Spark” Happens…….Yeah, Yeah I know you think it only happens in Movies but Its Real Life and A lot of People Choose to Ignore It and that’s why their Not Happy with the Person they are with and they are settling because Nobody Had the Guts to Tell the Other Person or they were just to Scared to Mention the Spark!!!! I can assure you that if you meet that person and you have that Spark, that’s the person you were meant to be with. Because it does not happen all the time, unless your just drinking acids or some type electric juice that just makes you a sparky person LOL!!!, for lack of better words.

While trying to find their Sole Mate that is Where the Game of Chess is Relevant and we all are Pro’s at it once we’ve (mostly males) Found the 1!!!! Its your job to seek out the Women Not the Other Way around and for those who’s got it twisted Keep Searching and you find yourself alone or with just any random person because your trying too hard when it’s a natural thing!!!! Ladies Let the Men do their Job!!!! If he has not found you…………Then its not your time, Patience is a Virtue Stop Being Impatient!!! Love Will Come. Also everybody has their Bests Friends or Family Members a.k.a Advisers (These are your BISHOPS, KNIGHTS & ROOK’S so to speak) to help them out in the (CENTER –Heart ) of the Game, Real Talk!!! Now these people or players can only help you so much during the game, meaning they can only move in some many ways and directions that you either have to trust them and listen to their advice only if they are wise because a fool listening to a fool will only put you in Foolish Situations!!! or you go with Your Own Instincts.

You also have the Ongoing Relationships with People- Male or Female which in chess you can relate them to as (PAWNS) The People you Learn From and Grown From and the Ones who are just useless in your life or you haven’t learned a LESSON meaning Check, during the game I guess when you capture your opponents PAWNS or whatever you call CHECK, So if you are in a Relationship where you are growing or maturing from it…………then that’s a Check in Chess but if your with people who are obliviously mean you no good, then these people are your (STALEMATE). Yes they are stalemate because you’re not growing with them; you’re only growing apart or bypassing them. And often the Relationship is Stale Anyway so that’s why some people are cheating (Quote on Quote “Excitement” to add to their Stale Relationship LOL!!!) on each other too many Stalemates and Not Enough (PAWNS) in the Game. But in Some Cases we fall for these Stalemates and that’s when We Need that WAKE UP CALL from our Friends, Family i.e, Knights (Same Age Group), Bishops (The Older More Experienced People) & Rooks (The Younger People that we sometimes Listen to Rookie’s in a sense).

Then there's a Term Called How to Castle & When the King is in Check..................

Tired of Reading Yet?????? Huh, Huh, I know this can seem complicated but it's not!!!! I’ll Stop here…….If you want more just shoot me an email or send me blog comment and I can give you the rest at a later date…………………… To Be Continued..............

The Game is to be Sold not Told LOL!!!! I’m so smart I think I will write a book myself one day, maybe??? Give me some feedback. Do you Agree So far or Disagree……………………………..????

Always in Parting

Promote Positivity……………………..And Watch It Grow!!!

Love Jamie :-)

Boys vs. Grown Men..................Girls vs. Grown Women Remix

BOY VS. GROWN MAN

If out Shopping with your women the Boy will let her carry all her purchases. A Grown Man will carry them for her.

Boys like to pretend and lie about their financial status Grown Men know money isn't all that makes a woman happy and whether he's drowning in dough or counting change there are other ways to satisfy and make a woman happy.

Boys brag about their sampling sessions. Grown Men learn from theirs and find new and exotic ways to keep the intimacy intriguing.

Boys like to lie about the sizes of their manhood. Grown Men know never to lie because eventually the lady will find out, and we all know it ain't about the size, but rather the motion of the ocean that matters.

A boy will demands his own wayA man is willing to compromise. A boy thinks a girl/woman's greatest assets are the things he can physically see about her A grown man knows her greatest assets are invisible.

A boy thinks he knows everything and is never wrong. A grown man continues to learn, admits when he's wrong and apologizes

A boy will stock, lurk and not trust his girl when out with friends. A man will trust his girl when she is out with her friends.

A boy gets upset when his girl has males friends. A man thinks its fine and will invite them over to watch the big game.

Boys have sex. Grown men make love

Boys will get jealous and want to fight with every man that talks to his girl.....A GROWN MAN will not worry about it because his girl knows who daddy is!!!!!!!!!carry out the ORDERS ( a.k.a. break-in backs)

So Ladies and Gentlemen........................................What do you think??? This should be interesting??

Submitted by way of myspace page of Boris from Franchise Presents in Cali!!!! and Edited by Jamie L. Payne.