Dating in a Relationshit Society........

Dating in a Relationshit Society: I would say that Im not really a "date kinda gal" a nice date here and there and Im good. I'm one of those "Don't Go Out Much but When I do...BABYYYYYYY.... I know to make it worth my while" I don't mind going out but I truly believe that the person for you... You kinda just know. (Don't ask me how I know... But you'll just know)




Talking to a Male friend of ...mines about dating as we know it ... I told him for me I personally think dating isn't neccessary ALL THE TIME, Especially if you're trying to build for the future. Dating can be expensive on both ends... Men pay lots of money to impress women with the "Setting or Ambiance" While women pay lots of money to impress men with the way they "Present Themselves" or their overall "STYLE"



Men- can spend up to $150 on one date including Food, Drinks, Traveling Exp. back and fourth and other little misc.expenses that add up...



Women- Can spend up to $150 on an Outfit alone (Dress, Shoes, Accessories) ... not to mention getting their hair done, (nails, feet, if applicable) for one date, just to look great.



The Problem: Men Expect Sex after one date and Women Expect Respect after one date..... Neither has Earned just off of a persons "Looks", "Financial Status" or the person they "Appear To Be"



Remedy: Stop focusing on dating , Stop Spending Money that you could be saving for the Future to Invest in Other things. Date the person who mutually likes you for you and not how they "think" you are. And Remember in this Economy is Better to Save Money then Spend all of It...... Even if you have scale back you'll be glad in the long run....... (We Gotta Get Our Priorities IN ORDER )


Written By:

Jamie P

Wow.... I almost go lost.....

Getting so caught up in the World's of Facebook and Twitter I almost got lost trying to keep up.    I kinda like the fact that I have this blog, it allows me to have control over my own small portion of the media world around me.    

I haven't written on here in a while, I think I'll start writting here more often..................


Sorry I've neglected this space.... I promise to keep writing and make you more colorful even if I'm the only that notices.....


Love,

Jamie :)

Like is an Understatement....

To LIKE You is an Understatement: ... (I LOVE YOU)..... Love Happens in a Blink of an Eye but the Memories Last Forever...




When I was down and feeling doubtful.. You were there not only were you there but you cared.. You told me everything will be okay and to keep going ... You Get No Likes for that (I Love You)



You Believed in My Dreams, Supported My Goals (No Matter how Big or Small)... You were right beside me even if you weren't there, you were only a phone call away You get No Likes for that (I Love You)



If I needed an ear or some sound advice Guess who was there...(YOU) You either gave me advice or told me to try something different, you never made me feel stupid or dumb ... You get no likes for that (I Love You)



Whenever a disagreement came about while working together on a project who's the first person to check and see if I was ok... and make sure things smoothed out... You... So you get no Likes for that (I Love You)



Whenever I call and seemed upset you didn't challenge me or get defensive you always asked... How can You Make it Better (Pause) *Tear* (Pause/Again) ...Loss for words but Who does that?? Thats definetly not a Like..... NO I LOVE YOU



You've treated my friends & family like your own with respect, care and honesty... for that alone I don't just like you... I Love U



When the World Around Me Seems Crazy and People Are All Upset Either Your Smile, Personality or just a thought of you Can Make Anyday Brighter... for that I Love You....



You Make Me Comfortable Even when Im Not Comfortable.... Nope Sorry ... I know I Love You...



You inspire me to do better, you make me want to give more, more to others , more to the world around me.... that's Growth... Growth doesn't stem from a liking someone its stems from Love....



These are type of moments don't come from liking someone they come b/c of Love and in my lifetime I hope that I can make someone feel this way ... Cause these types of feelings are irreplaceable.... So I'm sure they won't just like me..... They'll Love Me...



I Love You Not b/c of all these things Listed but because of Who You Are Alone is More than Enough For Me... You're a Friend, A Leader, a Lover, a Teacher, A Confidant, A God Send, A Rare Find... YOu are the Greatest Gift of All Time........

If you ever feel the need to wonder why I feel the way I feel.... Just Let Me Know....(

Heart of the City Tv ((Highlights))).........5.15.12

Topic of the Week

 "Sexual Healing"

                                                       

                                                                                        



1) What does Sexual Healing Mean?

A) The Mind, Body and Soul

B) As much as sex is physical, it’s also mental as well.

C) A complete sexual experience involves all three factors

D) Sexual Healing is a form of release from stress, aggravation and other outside issues.

E) Sex is supposed to be enjoyable for partners, not one without the other.

F)  It also involves "Intimacy" lack of Intimacy can ruin the experience overall



2) Who controls sex women or men?

A) Majority of the men said that “Women Control Sex”

B) Women have more power to say no to sex than men will ever have

C) The men also said that women control sex prior to the encounter but things shift afterwards.

D) Depending on a what woman's desires are ….Sexual Stimulation (She only wants sex) or Mental (She wants more than a fling)

D) Men can and do gain control of sex once they “Put It Down”



3) Why are the terms Power & Control being used when talking about sex?

A) Usually when people aren’t on loving relationships those type of issues or struggles come with the territory of not being in a committed relationship

B) In committed relationships love is embraced more and sex is more 
Pleasurable

C) When you have power struggles in your situation its usually because one person isn’t satisfied with the  situation and will use sex as weapon to get what they want ….”Sometimes”


4) Can you teach old dog new tricks or can you teach your partner how to please you?

A) Yes is possible for most with proper communication physical and verbal communication.

B) Patience is Key with anything, if that person wants you in their life they aim
     should be to please you and vise versa.

C) Some people can’t be taught …. Well we say it just depends on the teacher ;-)

                                          
                                                       


NOTES TO THE YOUTH: Abstinence is Key, Waiting Until Your Married is Preferred.. However if you must….Always Protect Yourselves use (Condoms)… Protect Your Heart (Committed Relationships Are the Best) and Remember Your Worth the Wait!!!



Join Us Tuesday June 5, 2012 for Part 2 of “Sexual Healing” Mind, Body & Soul Series …. Next Time We’ll Talk about Mental Stimulation and how it applies to the whole Sexual Experience (Red Kiva 1108 W. Randolph, Chicago, IL)

Men & Marriage........(Heart of the City)

So a question was asked by a woman in a facebook group page.... So what's the Real Reason Why Men Even Want to Marry...... This Gentlemen stated this  & I've never heard it said in a better way..........




"The overwhelming need to have someone try to tell him what to do all day. (naw just kidding) Truthfully all men truly desire a partner they can trust with their "Kingdom" men are designed to go out and slay... dragons and provide covering and protection. It is no fun to sit around by yourself even if you have all of the "toys". that is why men crave praise from their woman. They want to take over the world, wrap it up and give it to her. But, the key is she has to be that woman that he feels he can trust with everything. Literally when a man truly trusts a woman he would prefer to just bring the spoils home to her and let her manage them so he can go back out and get more. Because a real woman won't go shopping with your money or play it off she will build you a home to come into and make a nest for you to feel comfortable in" ~Lamont Meeks.....
 
 
He passed away shortly after with no indication of being sick.   Although I've never met him only by way of Facebook, this statement will never die.  Some people come into our lives for only short periods of time but leave a huge footprints or impact. on our hearts.   Appreciate people even if you've never met them personally, respect each others opinions and always cheerish life.  
 
Heart of the City...........

Heart of the City ((HIGHLIGHTS))..............4.24.12

Topic of the Week


"The Tender Trap"

                                                                                   


1) Are women getting pregnant on purpose to trap men?

A) Some women do because they were raised to think that way (Generational Error)

B) Some women have low self esteem, lack of self worth and they feel that’s all they can aspire to have is a baby.

C) Not all women want children by the men they are with

D) There are “Certain Types” of Women who use this method to keep men around.

E)  "Some" Women try to trap men who have their life together "Financially Stable Men"


2) Do men try to trap women as well?

A) YES….LOL but Its TRUE!!! *Side Eye * ask R. Kellz (Half on a Baby)

B) “Some” Men when they feel they have a “BAD” Women,

BAD meaning Sexy, Fine, Great Body *Mainly Physical Aspects* they will

desire more than likely to want to mate or have children with her.



3) How do Women and Men Trap Themselves?    

A) Using Unprotected Sex is the Number #1 reason why UNWANTED PREGNANCY occurs .**Note 2 SELF **  STRAP UP OR BE READY!!!



B) Men aren’t aware that even though the women says she’s on birth control that doesn’t necessarily mean she’s clear from pregnancy ((MESSAGE))



B) Women know when a man only wants a sexual relationship with them and instead of playing their position they let their “Emotions” get the best of them especially during the act of sex ((BE CAREFUL LADIES))



C) Getting “Comfortable” in long term relationships. Not using protection occurs more often in long term relationships (trust has been established)



E) Although Trust has been established in Long Term Relationships that “DOESN”T STOP PREGNANCY”



NOTES 2 THE YOUTH:  Think About It This Way:  Whenever Engaging in Sexual Acts REMEMBER this “PREGNANCY”.. SEX =’s PREGNANCY (NO QUESTIONS ABOUT IT)

CLOSING NOTES:  No Matter What Age You Are Female or Male,  Children are a RESPONSIBLITIY FOR BOTH PARTIES INVOLVED.....NO ONE PERSON IS TO BLAME!!!  PROTECT YOURSELVES, OWN UP TO YOUR ACTIONS & REMEMBER CHILDREN ARE LIFETIME COMMITTMENT!!!

**** Take Home FUNNY of the Day*****

MEN Think Birth Control Actually Controls BIRTH (O.o) ….HAHA YEAH RIGHT)) <<< ALWAYS STRAP UP…..ALWAYS>>>


THANKS EVERYONE FOR COMING OUT…… SEE YOU NEXT TUESDAY @RED KIVA (^.^)

"Heart of the City" Tv Show .....HIGHLIGHTS 4.17.12

Topic of the Week
"Knowing Your Roles"

                                                     


1) Who defines roles in and out of relationships?

A) Both women and men define roles when it comes to dating

... B) Expectations and what we Accept can also determine your role

C) Women are more likely to have an idea of what they “think” the roles should be but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s accurate for each situation.



2) Does our “Expectations” create unrealistic roles of our partners or dating choices?

A) People come from various backgrounds, so what they are used to growing up

is a major factor on what their expectations are.

B) Expect what you ACCEPT… ((MESSAGE)) if you accept bad behavior in

relationships don’t get mad or frustrated with outcomes because you accepted

it initially.

C) Give 100% in Relationships Freely and you will in return get it back, if that

person is on the same page with you when it comes to commitment.



3) “Don’t Get It Twisted” How do roles get confused when dating, not dating & in

relationships?



A) Oftentimes when women approach men who are in pre-existing relationships

and they still pursue the man and becomes sexually for long extended

periods of time they forget their position/role. (Side Piece 101)



B) Men know that women are emotional and will become attached even if the

women tells them different. Men MUST remind “some” women of their

position



C) When you see changes in your relationship and instead of communicating

your feelings openly, you start accepting new behaviors that you don’t agree

with.

D) Women can misinterpret what men want by assuming instead of asking them

directly.

E) Actions speak louder than words….PAY ATTENTION (O.O)



KARMATIC VIBRATIONS: The Energy YOU put out in to the World is what you’ll receive as a MATE. If you want a better mate/relationship you have to give the best of yourself 1st into the world.



**** Take Home FUNNY of the Day*****



Women Need Better Vibrators to get better Men aka Karmatic Vibrations (((inside joke))

THANKS EVERYONE FOR COMING OUT…… SEE YOU NEXT TUESDAY @RED KIVA (^.^)